I just did something I never thought I’d do. In fact my immediate instinct when she asked months ago was to say “NO! Absolutely not!”. My oldest daughter is 18. She has a fiance. They’ve known each other since we were stationed in Washington. They went to school together, had always been close friends. Then, eventually it became more. After graduation he went into the Army, and as luck had it, he was at Airborne training here in GA when we arrived. He’s stationed in North Carolina. They’ve maintained a long distance relationship for quite a while now.
He asked her to spend the holidays with him while he’s on leave, visiting his family in Florida.
As I said, my first thought was just no. The problem with that is
a. She’s 18.
b. she is a good kid.
c. he is deploying
I don’t mean she’s basically good, I mean never EVER has she gotten into trouble. Not a bit in 18 years. And she’s never done anything to make us not trust her. Nothing. No sneaking out, no partying behind our backs, nothing. She spends her free time at home now, but in WA it was hanging out at her friends house, and going to Youth Group and church.
And he is deploying. I couldn’t in good conscience deny her this time with him before he goes. There will be other holidays for us, and this year, our gift to her is allowing her to spend HER time with him.
Maybe I’ll get some Cool Mom points for this one.