Day 109-110: I'll Divorce Him Myself If I become One of THEM.

I know deployments require us to grow a thicker skin. We have to, it’s survival. But If I ever become one of the wives I’ve seen and heard around this place, I’ll divorce my husband myself on the grounds of sparing him the pain of living with me.

I’ve been at the post office alot, and you hear things. Same with the PX, Commissary, whatever. Alot of it just makes my jaw drop. Granted we have a few different deployments going on here, and the Iraq one has way more accessible to the troops themselves than the guys sent to Afghanistan do. But just yesterday I heard one saying she wasn’t going to send her husband anything else. It is too much of a pain to pack it, fill out the forms and go to the post office. He can do without.

Another at the PX was actually telling her friend she was happy to have her husband gone. They were getting on each others nerves too much in the FOUR MONTHS they’d been married.

Then there are the ones that just seem to not have any enthusiasm for their spouse at all. That talk about him like he’s a household pet or something. Maybe it’s all just defense mechanisms or something. But it makes me sad. Especially when I’m mailing boxes, and talking to another spouse and mention that I really enjoy sending packages, or I’ve doodled "I love you" on the box, and get "Oh you must be newlyweds, how long have you been married?". When I answer 17 years it shocks her. I think that’s kind of sad really. Passion, giddiness, and enthusiasm isn’t reserved for the newly married.