We had a sudden last minute notification (for me at least) FRG meeting last night. That did NOT make me happy. First of all it wasone of those “mandatory but not mandatory because we aren’t allowed” type deals. Basically they can’t make it mandatory for a spouse, but they CAN for the soldier. Well we both went. It was a pre-deployment briefing from ACS. And CLEARLY I am totally doing this wrong, because according to OMGSCARYLADY I should or will be doing the following..
1. Waiting for that knock at the door. That’s right, she actually informed us that we’ll wait for it. Well, not me I say. I’d prefer to wait for my MAN to come through said door thank you very much Miss Suzy Sunshine.
2. Wives are going to be totally stressed out right now preparing for deployment! I am? I’m a bit stressed out over a trip HOME next week, having to get on a plane, worry about what I eat, how my stomach behaves. But really, I’m not the one that needs to prepare, HE is. My job is simply make sure he’s happy and taken care of while he does it.
3. Due to question number two, we are going to pick fights with our husbands to make it easier when they leave. I think I’ve fought with my husband maybe…5…6 times in 16 years? Apparently, I need to do more.
4. Your husband WILL worry about you cheating on him. Yeah, and pigs will fly unfettered on a cool morning breeze while snowballs form in hell.
5 Your husband WILL feel like a stranger in his own home upon return, because you’ll be running things ok without him. Sorry Charlie, been there done that and the only thing my husband felt was relief to be home and being proud of me for taking care of business.
Now, I’d like to note that yes SOME wives/families WILL feel this way. I acknowledge that completely. BUT I do not appreciate the “everyone does this, though you may deny it” attitude this lady put out there. This isn’t our first time at the circus lady, we know where the elephants crap k? My other beef is, new wives that are just getting this info? If they weren’t freaked out before they sure as hell will be now!
I’m not one for sugar coating reality here, but when your briefing consists of telling us we are all going to be stressed out, overemotional messes waiting for Casualty Notification to knock on the doors something just isn’t right. And that’s an hour of my life I’ll never get back.
I think your attitude does NOT need adjusting… for once probably in both our lives… I agree with you…you have the right perspective on this situation.
Sounds like you should have been the one doing that talk and not her!
I just re-read this, and was going to add that you should have been doing the briefing, but I see that Marylin/Softi beat me to it…..
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Yes, I agree w/ Mom & Marilyn…you should be doing the briefing..you would be rocking at it!
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