Sixteen years. That’s how long we have been married. As of last Thursday. And he still manages to surprise me. I go in to the bedroom to change, and as I turned to leave something caught my eye. Lying on my pillow were three perfect red roses. Which I might add are still thriving a week later. It kinda reminds me of us.
I know when we got married there were doubts about us making it. There always are. We were only 19 at the time. And the odds were set against us, as they are with any marriage. But we defied the odds thus far. Even when he joined the army, which has even higher odds against us, we defied them. But how?
It’s easy. Too many couples these days either overthink getting married, or don’t think enough about it at all. Usually the latter. And it’s treated so often as just another boy girl relationship. We see it pretty often in the Army, young couples jump in head first, and soon realize that marriage on it’s own isn’t as easy as they thought, and that is compounded by the demands and stresses the military can put on it. Rather than work their way through it, they give up. Sometimes at the first roadblock, sometimes at the next. But theygive up, and treat it just like breaking up when they were dating.
It hasn’t always been easy for us, but we put in the effort, and adjust, overcome. It’s not always rainbows and roses, but I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Nice roses…congrats….
Aw congrats!
So many people just don’t get how difficult marriage can be do they?
J(Noobie) and I have been together 5 years now n it’s definitely not been an easy time. I know of a few times I have wondered whether to stay or go, but I stayed, and I’m glad I have. Like you said, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I am very very very happy you guys have made it this long
just goes to show you what determination, hard work, & love can do!
Congrats chickie!